What we hold onto, holds onto us

Many mediums, including myself, often feel the conditions of how your loved ones in the spirit world passed through our own physical bodies when we give readings, and I’ve been on my own journey to find out why that is.

To work as a medium, you will have to have a well developed, which is the ability to clearly sense and a clearly feel energy, so that you become a clear channel to work with spirit and deliver their messages .

To develop this ‘clair’ we must release and let go of anything what’s become trapped physically, mentally and emotionally within our body and mind.

We won’t be able to tell what is us and what is other, if we’re not working through a clear channel. It becomes a constant process of releasing and letting go. And is why we need to allow in recovery time after a day of giving mediumship readings.

This is why you may hear a medium say. ‘Can you take this off or away from me now please’ to their spirit guide team, when we’re feeling and sensing through our own physical body the conditions of your loved ones in spirit physical health conditions or the way they passed.

I feel pressure on my chest as well as feeling breathless when someone in spirit had breathing or lung issues. I also feel pressure on my chest, but with pressure in my arm, a sudden pain, feeling of a racing pulse, when there was heart issues.

I feel physically sick, when someone had to go through cancer treatment, and I will feel and sense within my own body an enlarged organ where their cancer grew.

For Alzheimer’s or dementia, my head will feel foggy. For strokes I feel numb on my left side. For a sudden passing I will feel, see and then sense leaving my body quickly and looking down on it, as I have exited.

I’ve been curious to find out the deeper meaning as to why this is, because my knowing tells me there is.

Why do we feel what they had felt in their earthly bodies, Why, when they are no longer in a physical form, are they energetically giving this through a mediums physical body.

I do know that when I raise my vibration in a reading, then spirit world lower theirs to connect back to the earthly energy, and there is a remembrance and an energy echo.

Your spirit loved ones are no longer in any form of pain or suffering. They are free of it all.

I remember my mum, who struggled with emotional and physical conditions, gave me the image of a bird flying out of cage, many times, after she passed and symbolically the last Mother’s Day card I bought her, but was unable to give, because she died, had a bird flying out of cage on it.

I believe, as mediums, what we are feeling and sensing in readings, as well as giving evidence of a loved one’s health conditions and passing to give our sitter, that it is trapped emotional energy within physical body’s. Emotional energy that hasn’t been processed and doesn’t wish to be transferred to anyone else so needs to be transmuted.

I know from my own experience within a year of my mums passing, I developed health conditions that related to my mum. It wasn’t just my unprocessed grief, it was what she herself struggled with while on earth and that hadn’t been processed while she was alive.

An example of this, I believe many of us who are having more intense perimenopause/menopause symptoms now are carrying the trapped energy from our past loved ones, who never spoke up about their symptoms. So many women suffered in silence. It was something all women went through, yet it was seen as embarrassing and was belittled and wasn’t shared, so many felt they were on their own.

This came with feelings of loss of identity and midlife crisis. Which started to be shown in films like ‘Shirley valentine’ that there could be a positive change from breaking out and breaking free of past structures.

This energy of trapped emotions, lives within our bodies. The things that are pushed down as a way to cope. Heart problems, when there has to be heart healing. Brain issues, when there is too much over controlling and not enough emotional understanding. A sudden exit that leaves more questions than answers.

We are the ones who are here to do the energetic clean up job. Our loved ones wish for us to be as free as they are. To live a life that’s our own. Free of past burdens, past shame, past blame and past hurts.

How you do this is by being curious, staying aware, understanding and allowing all emotional energy to move through you. Having a better understanding of yourself. Knowing what’s yours and what isn’t. Somatic healing. Talking therapy. Being more in nature and grounding. Compassion and forgiveness.

Trapped energy wants to move, not stay stuck.

What you hold on to, holds on to you.

What you let go of, you allow yourself to become free of..